Unfortunately, the word pleasure does not appear in the English guidance for teaching Relationships and Sex Education, but there are many objectives that talk about pupils having autonomy over their bodies and living healthy lifestyles.
In my teaching, we name the clitoris from when pupils are 9/10 years old and I say that it is a fleshy mound full of nerve endings and so is a very sensitive area.
We also talk about conception in terms of when two people decide to have a baby, and that sex should feel nice. That usually gets a giggle and allows for discussion about pleasure and consent.
When they are at the beginning of Secondary school at 12 years old, we talk about masturbation and bust some myths, including that only boys masturbate. *Usually* someone asks how girls
masturbate and I’ll remind them about the clitoris and how it can feel nice when it is touched.
As they get older and I start teaching about porn, we discuss how women can often be portrayed orgasming quickly through penetration and how this is not representative of real life.
So you can see that these key areas of the curriculum allow for discussion about female pleasure.
What do you wish you were taught about sex and pleasure at school?